Mine to know

I found myself sandwiched between the inspirational note cards and my new neighbor at our local gift shop last week. Pleasant and inquisitive as she was, I was aware of my need to stand a bit to the side as she worked out what it was she was wanting to share with me.

Our conversation went something like this. “Wow that guy I saw at your house the other day was really hot; he must be a client of yours?” I responded that “no in fact he was my boyfriend.” “No kidding,” she says, I mean really? He is so hot and that accent, I mean he is really really hot. That was your boyfriend? Hmmm, really?”

No joke, it went just like that except I will spare you the many rounds she went with this because you get the point. So, I’m thinking to myself I have several choices. I can walk away now, I can take this personally, or I can step aside, knowing that 90% of what is going on with someone else has nothing to do with me.

I looked at my perplexed new neighbor and noticed we were about the same age and I know that she is single. If I had to guess at what was going on with her I would have said; “I’m guessing you are confused about this because you’re older, single and having a few extra pounds on you, have not found the opportunity to date attractive men like this?”  I could have said this being a BBW, as there is an unwritten rule that if you are the heavier one of the two you are allowed to approach this topic directly.  

I looked at this option and realized “nope,” not mine to say. I checked out if there was anything for me to do? “Nope,” not mine to do, however; I did ask Spirit is there something for me to know here and the answer was “Yes.” Yours to know. That yes, in fact, your boyfriend is that hot and you deserve to feel this beautiful. You are free in the world and that yes, there is still work to be done to let others know they too have the freedom to live large and in charge, rocking their curves.  However, you get the day off and this one (my neighbor) is not yours to do, for now anyway.  Thank God for age wisdom and learning the art of timing. (Right message wrong time was my mantra for years).

So, today I share with you…“If you are large, be in charge and get your butt out there and enjoy the beautiful world. There is a handsome man or women out there just wanting to get to know you and they will not be looking for your faults and if you feel the need to point them out, they will find someone else to spend time with.” I should know because I have more than my share and you should too. If you see me out and about just be aware, “I’m bringing sexy back and if I can, you can too!

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1.                            Suzi Southworth

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